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Courteney Cox: "The Thing Is, When You Get Older, It’s More About Compatibility Than It Is About Love"

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Actress Courteney Cox opens up about her recent divorce from ex-husband David Arquette in the April issue of Harper's Bazaar—on newsstands March 29th.

On David Arquette: “You can’t really get mad at David because he’s not a malicious person,” she says. “He was dealing with things the best way he could. And don’t get me wrong, he was on a show for entertainment. David is smart, and David is also a showman. He knew what he was doing.” She pauses. "I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I don’t think he’ll be doing more Howard Stern any time soon. He’s not out to harm. But I’m his biggest protector. I can’t help it.”

On compatibility: “The thing is, when you get older, it’s more about compatibility than it is about love,” she says thoughtfully. “I think it’s more about needing just a kind of peace and stillness. I’m kind of all over the place, and I need grounding. I want to be calm. I want to change a lot. I want to live not outside but inside. It’s nothing with David; it’s just what I’m searching for.”

Their seven-year age gap—Courteney is 46 to David’s 39—doesn’t register to her as the crux of their issues, however. “Most guys aren’t that mature, are they? They just don’t think the way we think.” She does admit, “I thought I had always been a little bit of a cougar with David.” “I don’t find the whole cougar word that offensive,” she says. “And also, a cougar is someone who takes care of herself and goes out with younger guys. She doesn’t need a man to take care of her.”

On rumors of an affair with her Cougar Town costar Brian Van Holt, gossip she flatly denies: "He's a really good friend of mine, so I don't care," says Courteney. "It just doesn't matter. He's a great guy, and he's definitely been a part of my support system."

Courteney can't see herself diving into the dating pool any time soon: "I have no desire right now," she admits. "I'm not saying never. It just seems weird. I don't even know how that would happen or how you meet people. I really don't like to go out. I'm not great at small talk. I like to go to dinner with people. I don't like to go to parties. There's a sign on my forehead: EXITING SOCIAL LIFE, ENTERING INTO ISOLATION."

· Courteney Cox [Harper's Bazaar]