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Should I Go to This Wedding? And Other Big Day Questions, Answered

Excerpts from Lucy Knisley’s Something New

Weddings are happy and joyful and generate an absolute metric ton of difficult-to-answer questions. While guests ask, "Should I even go to this wedding?", happy couples try to navigate which "traditions" are a total scam, how (and if) to change their names, and various other quandaries.

Luckily, author and illustrator Lucy Knisley has been there, done that, and has many funny thoughts about the whole thing. In her new graphic novel, Something New (out now from First Second Books), Knisley tracks the complicated ins and outs of her wedding to her husband John with humor, insight, and a very healthy dose of skepticism. Below, a few excerpts to solve some of your burning wedding-related queries.

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Whether or not to go to a wedding is one of the most important things a wedding guest can ask themselves. It's hard to say, but this handy flowchart should give you an idea of whether you should be there, eating free cake, or at home, eating cake you bought for yourself.

When you're getting married, it can seem like everyone has something to sell you. But while companies are looking to cash in on your love, no brand would be so craven as to come up with these hilarious ideas, right? Right? RIGHT?

As Knisley points out, changing your name when you get married is easy — if you're a woman taking her new husband's last name. For couples who want to do something else with their family name, the process can be a little more complicated. But don't give up! Or, you know, do, it's okay.

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